Using Start Stop Continue In One On Ones

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# Start Stop Continue in 1-on-1s and Performance Reviews

> Use start stop continue in a 1-on-1 or performance review: both people prepare items, talk through behaviors, and agree on one or two changes to review.

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## At a Glance

| Field | Value |
|-------|-------|
| Difficulty | Intermediate |
| Time to Learn | About an hour to learn, then practice across a few meetings |
| Outcome | You can run a start stop continue 1-on-1 or review in which both people prepare, discuss behaviors, and leave with one or two changes you will check next time. |
| Prerequisites | A regular 1-on-1 or review cadence, a shared place for notes, some examples of recent work to refer to |
| Part of | [Start Stop Continue](../../methods/start-stop-continue/METHOD.md) |

## Overview

A start stop continue 1-on-1 uses the three questions of the [Start Stop Continue method](../../methods/start-stop-continue/METHOD.md) in a conversation between two people, usually a manager and a direct report. Each person prepares a few items: what the report could start doing, stop doing and continue doing, and often what the manager could change too. The meeting walks through those items and ends with one or two agreed changes that the next meeting reviews. The same structure works for a performance review and for self-reflection.

BetterUp recommends the framework [during performance reviews](https://www.betterup.com/blog/start-stop-continue) as well as after sprints and projects, and presents it as a method for self-reflection. Its advice includes setting clear expectations beforehand, recording responses, and using the results as a foundation for SMART goals. The structure helps because it gives both people the same three headings, so the conversation covers what to add, what to drop and what to protect, instead of drifting toward whatever happened most recently.

There is some evidence that the structured form draws out better written comments than an open box. In higher education, [Hoon and colleagues](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/02602938.2014.956282) found a Stop, Start, Continue form was associated with student feedback of greater depth than free text entry. That study was about course feedback, so treat it as supporting evidence for structured prompts in general.

A 1-on-1 differs from a team session in ways that change the technique. The feedback is personal, the power difference is explicit, and there is no group to dilute a hard message. The manager's job is to make the Stop column safe to use in both directions, to describe behaviors rather than traits, and to keep the number of agreed changes small enough to act on.

## How It Works

The core of the method stays the same: three headings, prepared in advance, discussed, then turned into a few commitments. What changes is who writes, who speaks first and how items are phrased.

Both people prepare. The report writes their own start, stop and continue items about their work, and the manager writes theirs. A manager can also invite items about themselves, such as "stop rescheduling our 1-on-1s at short notice," which shows that the format is two-way. Preparation takes a few minutes if the manager shares the three questions a day or two before.

Have the report speak first. Hearing the report's view before the manager's reduces the chance that the report simply agrees with the manager's framing, and it often reveals that the report already sees the issue. The manager then adds items the report did not raise.

Items are phrased as behaviors with context and effect. The Center for Creative Leadership's [Situation-Behavior-Impact model](https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/closing-the-gap-between-intent-vs-impact-sbii/) is a good template: name the situation, describe the specific behavior observed, and explain its impact. The extended version adds a question about intent, such as "What were you hoping to accomplish with that?" A Stop item written this way, such as "in last week's planning meeting you committed to a date before checking with the team, which put them under pressure," gives the report something concrete to discuss.

The meeting ends with one or two agreed changes, recorded where both people can see them, and a date to review them. BetterUp suggests turning the feedback into SMART goals. The next 1-on-1 opens by reviewing those changes before any new items.

For a performance review, use the same structure over a longer period. Ask both people to bring examples from across the review period, not just the last few weeks, and keep Continue items as prominent as Stop items so the review records what the person does well.

## Step-by-Step Guide

### Step 1: Share the three questions in advance

A day or two before the meeting, send both parties the three questions and the period they cover. Say that items should describe behaviors, with an example from recent work. Invite the report to include items for the manager as well. This gives the report time to think and avoids putting them on the spot.

### Step 2: Prepare your own items as the manager

Write a small number of items per column, each tied to a specific situation. Use the situation, behavior and impact structure so each item points to something observable. Check the balance: if every item is a Stop, look harder for what should continue. Leave out anything you cannot illustrate with an example.

### Step 3: Open the 1-on-1 with the last agreed changes

Start the start stop continue 1-on-1 by reviewing the changes you agreed last time. Ask what happened, what helped and what got in the way. Record whether each change stuck. This keeps the format from becoming a list that nobody revisits.

### Step 4: Let the report go first

Ask the report to walk through their items, one column at a time. Ask questions to understand each item before responding. Where you agree, say so plainly. Where the report is harder on themselves than the evidence suggests, say that too.

### Step 5: Add your items and invite feedback on yourself

Add the items the report did not raise, using specific situations. Then ask for the report's items about you, and listen without defending. Acknowledge anything you will change. Showing that you take Stop items about yourself seriously makes it easier for the report to accept theirs.

### Step 6: Agree on one or two changes

From everything discussed, agree on one or two changes for the report and, if relevant, one for the manager. Make each change specific, name when it will start, and decide how you will both know it happened. Keep the rest of the items in the notes for later.

### Step 7: Record and review next time

Write the agreed changes in a shared note with the date. Put the review on the agenda for the next 1-on-1. For a performance review, keep the notes from each 1-on-1 so the review can draw on the whole period.

## Best Practices

- Keep the format two-way. Inviting items about the manager makes the Stop column feel fair, and it surfaces problems the manager cannot see.
- Anchor every item in a situation. The [SBI model](https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/closing-the-gap-between-intent-vs-impact-sbii/) keeps feedback on behavior and its effect, which is easier to act on than a judgment about personality.
- Limit the number of changes. One or two agreed changes that happen are worth more than a long list that fades by the next meeting.
- Use Continue items to name strengths explicitly. People often do not know which of their habits are valued until someone says so.
- Keep a running note across meetings. It shows patterns over time and gives the performance review real examples.
- Use the same three questions for self-reflection between meetings. BetterUp presents the model as a method for [self-reflection](https://www.betterup.com/blog/start-stop-continue).

## Common Mistakes

- **Springing the questions on the report in the meeting**: Without preparation, the report reacts rather than reflects. Share the questions a day or two ahead.
- **Using it only for criticism**: If every meeting is a list of Stop items, the report will dread it. Give Continue items real attention and specific examples.
- **Writing traits instead of behaviors**: "Stop being disorganized" invites defensiveness and gives no direction. Name the situation and the specific behavior instead.
- **Agreeing on too many changes**: A long list spreads effort thin and makes follow-up impossible. Pick one or two and review them.
- **Never revisiting the agreed changes**: If the next meeting ignores last time's changes, the format loses credibility. Open every meeting with the review.

## References

- [Examples](references/examples.md): Worked examples and scenarios
- [FAQ](references/faq.md): Frequently asked questions
- [Parent Method](../../methods/start-stop-continue/METHOD.md): Start Stop Continue

## Related Skills

- [Writing Effective Start Stop Continue Feedback](../writing-effective-start-stop-continue-feedback/SKILL.md)
- [Writing Start Stop Continue Questions and Prompts](../crafting-actionable-feedback-prompts/SKILL.md)
- [Facilitating a Start Stop Continue Retrospective](../facilitating-start-stop-continue-retrospectives/SKILL.md)
- [Building a Start Stop Continue Retrospective Template](../building-start-stop-continue-templates/SKILL.md)
- [Categorizing and Prioritizing Start Stop Continue Items](../categorizing-and-prioritizing-feedback-items/SKILL.md)
- [Running a Start Stop Continue Icebreaker](../running-start-stop-continue-icebreakers/SKILL.md)

## Sources

- [BetterUp: Start, Stop, Continue](https://www.betterup.com/blog/start-stop-continue)
- [Center for Creative Leadership: Situation-Behavior-Impact-Intent](https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/closing-the-gap-between-intent-vs-impact-sbii/)
- [Hoon et al.: Stop, Start, Continue and constructive student feedback](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/02602938.2014.956282)